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I’m feeling stressed by proxy.
Himself has been a bit stressed of late. Well, maybe a bit more than stressed. And maybe a bit longer than just ‘of late’. His patience has been about as short as that of a wasp for about a month now…
I’ve been trying to play my currently alloted role in life of ‘the supportive girlfriend’. I listen and advise as best I can, I apply soothing words to the latest boo-boo, I do the cleaning and make the dinners without (much) complaint. But I fell pretty useless. I cant go into his office and tell the other kids to F-off. I’m not his mother and this is not a school playground. I just cant make a difference enough for him to fell not stressed. He emailed me a while back with a rant about the day, and all I wanted to do was hug him and hold his hand. I felt horrible that I couldnt take away all the frustration and crappiness.
So I just contine to apply as much empathy as I can muster and apply it liberally to his wounds. And do the washing and ironing so he doesnt have to worry about the trivial things. I suppose I get to work out my proxy stress by scrubbing the bathroom at least.
3 Comments for Stress by Proxy
Normal Service Resumes | Jasons Blog | Blog Ireland | July 7, 2010 at 11:31 am
zuzana szaboova | July 7, 2010 at 12:37 pm
I like your style Missis 
Amazed that you can still do it I gave up after nearly 4 yrs 
peter donegan | July 7, 2010 at 5:22 pm
Happier in the knowledge he will be able to iron his own shirts again 
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